Good afternoon Nairalanders. It's been 2 years and 6 months since I got married to my wife. She has been completely idle since then; recently I gave her 5m to start up a business, in which she told me she'd start it by December. The very evening I sent her the money - not less than 5 minutes - she borrowed her friend 1.5m from it to boost HER friend's business and locked the rest on her Piggyvest, pending December that she'd be starting up her business.
It's been almost a month since I gave the money. Yesterday Sunday, I went to see my mom and we were just discussing randomly, then the discussion led to me telling my mom that I gave my wife money for business, in which I couldn't even disclose the amount, because my mom has been bugging me for 5k for weeks now to send to her mom that's in the village, but I haven't been able to give her yet because things really seem so hard for me this period.
I sold my land, pocketed 1m and gave her the balance 5m to start the business. Today, I opened up to my wife that my family is aware that I gave her money for business and she has been very mad, angry and furious - claiming how could I tell my family that I gave her money, asking if she were the one that gave me money, would she then start announcing to her family that she gave me money.
I responded by letting her know that, firstly, that is not possible because there's no way she'd give me money, and secondly a man telling his family that he gave his wife money and a woman doing the same thing are two entirely different things; the weight of the words are not the same. Note: last year I bought a fridge for her mom for 350k and no single soul in my family knew until this very hour; I sent her mom 70k too, while the highest amount I have ever sent my own mom is 50k; I have bought her 5 phones in a space of two years.
Also, my mom has been dreaming of using an android phone ever since, and I eventually bought her a phone, but before even surprising her, my wife said she liked the phone and took it and started using it. I told her to give me her older phone so I could give my mom and until date she refused - she's still using both phones until this very moment, and my mom is using a touch-light phone she bought with her own money from her little savings.
It's been almost a year now and I have only brought up the issue twice about her hijacking the phone I bought for my mom; the two times I brought it up it didn't end well - always endless quarrel. I just want to know if her behaviour is normal, or am I the one not seeing anything bad in what I did? Because this girl has manipulated me to the point that I have started seeing every ordinary little thing as a big deal.
How can a normal human being get angry because a man told his mom that he gave his wife money to start up a business? I really want to know if I'm the one seeing all of these in a wrong way or if she's right.