DEFENSIVENESS BUILDS WALLS Your spouse says: “That hurt me.” You respond: “But you hurt me first.”
Your spouse says: “I felt ignored.” You respond: “You're always complaining.”
Your spouse says: “I need you.” You respond:
“I'm busy.” And suddenly, the conversation is no longer about healing.
It has become a battle of defense. Defensiveness can turn a bridge into a wall. Learn to listen without immediately preparing your defense.
