Getting married to an intentional spouse is everything in one.
My birthday is 16th of November, since I started dating my Wife she has always done everything possible to make my day remarkable.
I'm that type of guy that likes keeping things on a low, quite an opposite of my Wife, she likes doing her things loud and doesn't care who gets to hear it.
Well, my type of guy I don't cage you, infact I allow you to be yourself cause I like being myself, on her birthdays I don't mind making it loud but on mine I just like chilling on my own if I'm even to have fun its best of me to spend quality time with her hangingout and chilling on dates.
It's almost November again, and the sweet problem as I call it is here again. It's been 5 birthdays with her as my wife so far, and she has always made it remarkable, always making a great occasion off it. Even when we are not together. I've always gotten cakes that I share with colleagues at work and they marvel at the quality and amount each of them got, my wife is high test and she doesn't spare a dime when it comes to what she feels will be a show of love to me.
Now on my part I'm just cheerful about it for the effort, money and time she puts in doing it even though my joy has never been on what she did but for the fact she is ready to show me such love.
On talking to her today I got to know she is planning to do money cake for me with about 1million naira while she pays the cake lady 200k, omo I feel it's a waste owing to the fact that I do not place value In all these, I had to ask her not to do it, oya come see her romantic vex that it's her thing make I dey my day.I've been trying to stop her and I'm seriously not okay with it as I see it as waste, firstly there is no way in hell I'm going to snap picture with money cake and I believe that's one of the essence of the cake, secondly who has time to pack up a million naira from money cake, thirdly she won't even be around as she is out of Nigeria for now, then imagine giving out 200k just for someone to stress me, how much does most 9-5 workers earn.
I know she doesn't place much value on money just like my Mum and that's one of the major reasons why I love her so much, she also values Humanity more than money and material things.
Truths be told since I we started dating before we married my birthday has stopped being the calm thoughtful day it has always been which I love so much, to such an uncomfortable day with much anticipation which I also love to an extent.
I've always told her it's supposed to be what makes me happy that counts on that day but she doesn't want to see it that way. I wonder how long it will take for her to understand or how long it will take before I get used to this.
But right at this moment it's actually a sweet problem to me.
