Because let’s be honest, some people only learn to respect themselves when there are actual consequences attached to their choices.
Just one month into your marriage, you're already doing "you can't control me."
All cause he was being your voice of reasoning.
Telling you how it doesn't even portray or represent you well being in that kind of gathering as a newly married individual.
But, no!
Lots of you have been brainwashed into thinking your husband can never mean well for you.
He was trying to block your shine.
He was trying to control you.
Ehn now, shout on the NDLEA officials too na.
Tell them they are trying to control you, and you as a queen mother that you are will never allow it.
...If they will not slap your brain comot for your skull.
Now, I know that some people will think that the husband went too far.
Because ordinarily, some husbands will jump into James Bond mode shouting “My wife is innocent! Where is she? I’m coming to get you!”.
But this husband is me and I am him.
Baba said “I don’t know her.” 😭
He knows ball...
Listen, guys!
If you repeatedly rescue someone from the consequences of choices they deliberately made against your wishes, you can accidentally teach them that your boundaries have no teeth.
Soon, that “I’m going to this party despite what you said” will turn to “He’ll be angry, but he will still come and save me.”
Small small, those warnings of yours will just become background noise because there is no consequence attached to ignoring them.
Even as men, we do have our excesses. And it is expected that our wives be our voice of reasoning at all times.
Mama, any day I'm that heady to not listen at the very least, please let me roast in my consequences o.
As long as e no go kpai me.
See, I’m not saying spouses should abandon each other in genuine emergencies or become enemies inside marriage.
I’m saying love does not mean shielding an adult from every consequence of their decisions.
Sometimes, the most important lesson a person can learn is:
“My actions have consequences, and my spouse is not obligated to clean up every mess I deliberately create.”
As far as I'm concerned, this lady has learnt something new. 😂
She learnt that this man is not going to take nonsense simply because she is married to him.
And maybe more importantly, she also learnt that marriage does not erase personal responsibility.
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