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However, hospitality offers a paradoxical situation (like language), since the inclusion of those who are welcomed in the sacred law of hospitality implies that others will be rejected. Julia Kristeva alerts readers to the dangers of "perverse hospitality", which takes advantage of the vulnerability of aliens to dispossess them. Hospitality reduces the tension in the process of host-guest encounters, producing a liminal zone that combines curiosity about others and fear of strangers.

Hospitality centres on the belief that strangers should be assisted and protected while traveling. However, some disagree: Anthony Pagden describes how the concept of hospitality was historically manipulated to legitimate the conquest of the Americas by imposing the right of free transit, which was conducive to the formation of the modern nation state.

This suggests that hospitality is a political institution, which can be ideologically deformed to oppress others.

I am slim and according to my family panegyric I have discovered that most of my ancestors were like that - a line in our oriki in both my maternal and paternal ancestry refers to us as "Omo Atere tibon tibon"... that is, the child of the slim dude that goes around with a gun; it means they were hunters too.

I am from Ekiti (hills) and my cognomen is Omo Owa, Omo Ekun - Owa is royalty in some Ekiti towns and particularly Ilesha; Ekun was the first king in Akure, he was a hunter from Ife. I hope you get my drift - what's your pedigree? Say no to tribalism.

VIVA AFRICA.

Just, "I trust this person." Months or years later, na wahala.

Sometimes the person genuinely didn't have full rights to sell. Sometimes another buyer shows up with older, more valid documents. Sometimes it's the person's own family disputing after they've passed on. What I've come to realize be say: knowing somebody personally tells you about their character, not about the actual legal state of the land.

Two completely different things. A person fit be very honest, kind, God-fearing — and still unknowingly sell you land that has issues they themselves don't fully understand.

I no dey try scatter anybody's trust for their people o, I just think say verification should always happen regardless of relationship. No be say the person go fit deceive you on purpose, sometimes even they no know say problem dey.

Anybody wey don experience this before? How e take turn out for una?

He holds it in trust. What you and I actually get when we "buy" land is called a Right of Occupancy — basically permission to occupy and use the land, usually for 99 years.

Not outright ownership like most of us assume. This is why documents like Certificate of Occupancy and Governor's Consent matter so much.

A lot of buyers focus only on getting a C of O and stop there, not knowing that even a real C of O still needs proper consent for it to be fully valid when transferred from one person to another. I won't lie, when I first learned this, it changed how I look at every land transaction — because "I paid for it" and "I legally hold it" are not always the same thing in this country.

Has anyone here had an issue with their C of O or Governor's Consent before? I'd like to hear real experiences, this one dey worry me small.

I'll start (Enugu, late August 2026): Cement (Dangote/BUA, per bag): ₦14,000–14,500 9" blocks: ₦700 Sharp sand (per trip): ₦7,250 Granite (per trip): ₦19,000 Iron rod (12mm, per length): ₦5,500 If you've bought recently, drop your state + what you paid.

Even better if you can say whether it was site delivery or ex-depot, since that changes things a lot.

2. Some people believe that Benin boys do not have any romantic bone at all in their body - some people will jokingly say "Ah, na Benin boy you go dey love?"

3. People assume that the average Benin person fit change am for you anytime - they think we all have Upper/3rd Blood, though many of us are gentle (e.g. me). 4. Benin guys get prideeee - like we nor really send anybody papa. What's yours?

Please, country is hard - they should take it easy. Somebody will die sick and broke, but the family will be forced to cough out millions they don't have to bury him. Haba. Why will some collect to bury the dead?