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Plenty time and mental energy men spend chasing women could have been building the man women eventually want.

Nothing wrong with women. Have your woman. Love her. Protect her. Provide when you can. Enjoy being a man beside a woman you care about. There's real satisfaction in that. But she shouldn't consume all your masculine energy.

The same attention you're using to analyse one dry "okay" from her, on WhatsApp for 3 hours is the attention you need to build your body, career, money and future.

Women are part of life. They are not the assignment. Sometimes step away from the game. You'll be surprised how much of yourself you get back. [2 Likes 1 Share]

It's always the girl that carries all the cross. She suffers all the shame. She carries the unwanted pregnancy.

Guys will say anything just to have you in bed with them. And how would you know the real ones? Even the quiet, innocent-looking ones - those guys do the worst. Its just a fun game for a lot of guys. [28 Likes 2 Shares]

If they make 10k to 15k daily they will give you all the money to cook or buy something to eat. A visionless man has no future plan - if he gets a contract that gives him 500k or a million naira he will first ask you what you want, buy you unnecessary things and send money to your parents, and when the money is finished he will sit and wait for another one.

Men filled with vision are not like that, they will spend 20 to 30% of their income and invest the rest... They are not interested in priding on being providers, they want to build empires... such men are difficult to be married to, sometimes they bring projects that will drain everything and make you look poor, but in few months, if you are patient you will find yourself in certain lifestyle you never dreamt of.

The reason why most successful men are divorced is because most women are not taught how to be with such men. I'm married to one... we built a factory that occupies about four plot of land from clearing of a virgin land to roofing in a month. The question every lady need to ask is who do I want to be with... but the challenge is most ladies want the men that spend on them now and later want someone that will give them stability.

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Voluntarily (without religion or society pressure), women only want marriage when they are older and unattractive - ideally from 28+.

Those that get married before then feel they settled too early, have high cheat rates etc. Effectively, women want to maximize their vital currency (youth and fertility). 2. Women dont actually like marriage - this message is for all the guys always talking marry marry marry on nairaland - they only marry and remain married if they are benefiting something and the marriage continues to meet their selfish interests.

3. Point number 2 explains why women who have money often choose to get divorced or become baby mamas. 4. Born again type guys with "no sex before marriage" mantra are going to get disappointed. The question is who were the girls sleeping with before they decided to get married.

It surely isnt the husband. So the husband gets a bad deal - sexual and financial comparison with exes - all the husband gets is baggage from her past.

Marriage institution is in need of serious reforms and renegotiation. The research question is why have women adopted the positions above? [1 Like]

1. Engagement ring 2. The wedding ceremony 3. Validations and congratulations 4. Gifts 5.

Settlement (finally a man to provide everything she needs and will be needing in life without her spending a single dime). Meanwhile for the average Nigerian man, it is completely different. Here are the 5 things that comes to a man's mind immediately he thinks about marriage.

1. Bride price 2. Wedding expenses 3. Personal expenses X 2 (multiple by 2) 4. Family responsibilities X 2 (multiple by 2) 5.

Fear of going broke X 2 (multiple by 2). Because all these things are financial responsibilities the man has to take care of, men completely have no interest in marriage anymore. [2 Likes]

Now, after all these years, she has suddenly come back and is saying that I am the biological father of the child. This has honestly come as a shock to me because it is completely different from what she told me back then. I'm not trying to run away from responsibility or deny anything.

I just believe that something this serious should be confirmed properly before anyone concludes that I am the father.

I'm willing to find out the truth through a proper DNA test, because I don't have money for DNA tests right now and I don't like the situation the daughter is in.

If your younger brothers and your parents respect the people that are younger than you because they have money and ignore you because you have nothing?

Thats are few among the things I am facing due to lack of job and money, I am thinking of relocating to another place without telling anyone and forget everyone.

Honestly, I feel terrible about it. The exchange rate is crazy, things are expensive over there too, and I feel like I am stressing and draining her.

I love this lady, and the last thing I want is to become a burden or make her lose respect for me because of constant financial dependence.

I want to stand on my own feet and start contributing or at least take care of myself entirely, so she can rest. For those who have successfully navigated this from Nigeria: How did you talk to your woman to let her know you appreciate her but are actively working to stop depending on her, so the relationship stays healthy?

What better solution did yall implore to upgrade yourself or your situation? How was she able to help that it ddnt have to let her break the bank for that help to occur cause she doesn't really have that, but u know if it's you 2 finally combining, it will make things easier.

Please share what worked for you or any legit paths I can follow to change my situation. God bless. [1 Like]

How people handle disagreements, how they communicate when something is bothering them and how they support each other's plans can say much more about compatibility than whether they both like the same music.

Shared hobbies are a nice bonus because they create opportunities to spend time together, but they shouldn't be the only thing determining whether someone is worth getting to know.