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When a man makes money, he starts thinking of getting a woman and starting a family. Unfortunately, there are less jobs for men now as people even prefer to give women jobs, therefore leaving more men unable to start a family and more women unable to get partners.

Another worrying fact now is the shaming of men who try to approach women.

It's either they are called broke or creeps or something derogatory. Most men have now lost the art of trying to 'toast' a woman. They prefer to stay on their own. Ironically, same women are now complaining of lack of attention from men.

The number of 35 years and above single men and women is alarming. There is a correlation between marrying at old age and the increase in children having developmental issues, something that was rare in the past.

Some people actually think that this may be an advantage as it will reduce the overpopulation in the world especially in Nigeria. Like all things, everything has it's advantage and disadvantages.

Women are not smarter than men. Lust simply has a way of clouding a man's judgment and impairing his thinking. It narrows his vision to a single outcome and makes every other consideration feel unimportant in the moment.

The man ruled by his urge commits to relationships he would have walked away from with a clear head.

He tolerates disrespect because walking away feels like losing access to something he cannot live without. He negotiates his standards downward one exception at a time until the standards no longer exist.

A man who has mastered this operates from an entirely different position. He evaluates people on their actual merit, not on how badly he wants them in that moment. That clarity is the opposite of desperation.

You are the prize. Never belittle yourself. Never seek validation from the very desire you have not yet learned to control.

Do you think most men underestimate how much their worst decisions trace back to this one thing?

“Everybody just asks for money. They’re always asking for money. I think that was the biggest shock for me.”

He compared the experience with what he was accustomed to abroad, saying people could interact without financial expectations being raised almost immediately.

“Cause over there people just do what they do. But over here you cannot even say hello or hi without getting billed.”

According to Wright, he encountered the situation repeatedly during his first few months in Nigeria.

“I haven’t met someone in the first two months are not billing me.”

He clarified that he was not opposed to spending money while dating, but said the frequency of financial requests was what surprised him.

“It’s not like I wouldn’t spend. But it’s money, money, money here. That’s the only thing everybody talks about.”

Watch him speak below …

"Nigerian girls like money a lot."

• Ojay Wright, Bukky Wright's son, reveals his biggest culture shock with dating Nigerian women pic.twitter.com/EX9JXLLmaN

— Pulse Nigeria (@PulseNigeria247) September 19, 2026

I will 39 in November and everybody has been singing marriage to me but like nobody cares about how I feel.

I don't want to marry nor have children but I can't say it loud in public. Money is no longer my problem but I want to live alone cos am happier alone. Pls is it normal or can anyone relate with this? 3 Likes.

(YouTube: WHY ARE NIGERIAN GIRLS HAVING MALE BESTIES WHILE IN A RELATIONSHIP? | NIGERIAN WOMAN REACTS - Mr Sly.)

When I bumped into the guy on the road, I even still tried to greet him. The guy just snubbed me. This guy never called me again. lol. I have been rejected many times, I just laugh it off. No hard feelings. Love is not by force o. Please grow up!

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