Please judge this matter fairly because I genuinely want to know if I was wrong.
I met this guy about three weeks ago inside my estate. It was late at night and he asked for my number. I don’t like standing outside discussing with people on the road, I find it awkward, so I gave him my number.
He didn’t call that night. He later called on Saturday around 9:30pm asking to see me. I declined because it was already late and I didn’t feel like going out.
Then two Wednesdays ago, he called again around 5:40pm after I closed from work. I was trying to make dinner but I agreed to see him quickly before continuing.
I freshened up and went downstairs. He asked me to sit inside his car and we started talking. He said he likes me and wants me to be his girlfriend. I told him he should do things properly first because we literally just met. At least know if we’re compatible and if we even want the same kind of relationship. You can’t just meet someone and immediately become overly familiar unless your main intention is to sleep with the person.
While we were talking, rain started falling heavily. I didn’t get back home until around 10:40pm. By then the food I planned to eat has already finished and I was starving 😭 I was honestly upset. I couldn’t sleep from hunger and had to quickly make noodles.
I messaged him later explaining what happened and this man didn’t even show small empathy 😭 Instead he was acting all smoochy and asking me to kiss him. Sir??? We literally just met. Immediate red flag.
Fast forward to today. He texted saying he was in the estate and wanted to see me. I was already outside going to get water, so I agreed.
While chatting with him on WhatsApp and asking for his exact location, one younger guy walked up to me. Let’s call him Obi. Obi said he had been calling me but I didn’t notice because I was focused on my phone. He asked for my number and I gave it to him 🫠
Unknown to me, the first guy saw everything from where he was sitting with his friends.
When I finally got to him, this man was angry 😭 Saying I disrespected him by giving another man my number in front of him and his friends.
I told him, “I’m single, not married, and I’m not your girlfriend.” Omo this man flared up 😭😂
I even apologized later and explained that I genuinely didn’t see him there while I gave the number. He ignored the apology completely.
Then he entered WhatsApp motivational speaker mode 😭 Talking about:
“You embarrassed yourself.”
“Every man here said you were wrong.”
“If I’m not your boyfriend, then you’re my girlfriend.”
“Do you think you’re the most beautiful girl in Thomas estate?”
“You have no respect.”
Sir??? 😭😂
Why did this suddenly become beauty pageant and estate championship?
What shocked me most was the entitlement. We are not dating. We have never gone on a proper date. This man has not even officially asked me out properly. Yet he already believes I owe him exclusivity because we spoke twice inside his car.
And honestly, the “are you the most beautiful girl in Thomas?” line just sounded like insecurity and wounded ego talking 😭
So please judge fairly.
Was I actually wrong?
Or was this man projecting and moving possessive too early?
Because Lagos relationship stories are not for the weak 😭.
Avoid 30+ Men. Someone who hasn't even spent 1 Naira on me inukwa 😒😂.
#fyp
