I understand the frustration behind that post.
You followed the script. You worked hard. You went to church. You got married. You had children. You built a career. You did what you believed was expected of you—and perhaps, somewhere along the line, you discovered that doing all of those things did not automatically give you the fulfilment you were hoping for.
That disappointment is valid.
But the conclusion? "Be a hoe. It’s all a scam." No, sis.
You didn't discover that goodness was a scam.
You discovered that a checklist is not a purpose.
And this is where we need to have an honest conversation, especially with women.
A woman (any one) can do everything society calls "right" and still feel empty if she has never stopped to ask:
"What has God called ME to do with my life?"
Marriage is not purpose.
Motherhood is not purpose.
A career is not purpose.
Having a big house is not purpose.
Even being a “good Christian woman” according to everybody else's expectations is not purpose.
These things can be PARTS of your life, but they were never designed to become the foundation of your identity.
Your first responsibility is not to successfully perform a script written by society.
It is to know God, know His will, and faithfully walk in it.
"For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them."
— Ephesians 2:10
And please, let's stop confusing OBEDIENCE with PASSIVITY.
Christianity does not teach women to switch off their brains, abandon ambition, tolerate dysfunction, marry the wrong person because "that's what a good Christian woman does," or build their entire identity around being somebody's wife and somebody's mother.
Jesus did not die to make you a checklist.
You need conviction.
You need discernment.
You need wisdom.
You need purpose.
You need to know what God has placed inside you-and you need the courage to pursue it.
Because if your entire definition of a successful life is:
Graduate. Get a job. Get married. Have children. Buy a house. Climb the ladder.
Then what happens when you achieve all of it?
You may discover that you achieved EVERYTHING you were told to want without ever discovering what you were created for.
And that's not Christianity's fault.
That's a failure of direction.
So no, the answer to an unfulfilled life isn't: "Be a hoe."
The answer is:
Find God. Find yourself in Him. Discover your assignment. Build with wisdom. Choose your relationships carefully. Pursue purpose. And don't allow culture, church, family, or even your own disappointments to become the compass for your life.
You don't need to become rebellious because you were disappointed. You need BETTER DIRECTION. You don't need to throw away your values because some of them didn't produce the life you imagined.
You need to examine whether those values were actually God-given convictions or merely expectations you inherited.
And here's the part we don't talk about enough:
Doing the right things for the wrong reasons can still leave you empty.
So perhaps the question isn't:
"Did I do everything right?"
Perhaps the better question is:
"Did I actually live the life God called me to live?"
Because there is a difference.
And if we're going to teach the next generation of women anything, let it not be:
"Be a hoe because it's all a scam."
They're greater consequences of living a hoe life, regardless of the money you'd get-if you're lucky to live long, but your soul will still be empty. Ask questions and you'd understand.
Wen people don't study consequences, they repeat mistakes - Myles Monroe.
If you don't learn from your mistakes, you will eventually turn your mistakes into a philosophy.
Don't live by a script. Live by conviction.
Don't chase an image. Pursue purpose.
Don't merely be a good woman. Become a woman who knows her God, understands her assignment, and has the wisdom to walk in it.
That is freedom.
That is maturity.
That is purpose.
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